Location, location, location!
I am not talking about buying property here, something much more important. Where to get married!? In a church? On the beach? Near your family? My family? Sometimes it is a matter of which country! I have heard stories where the couple couldn't decide and had to hold 2 weddings so a war wouldn't break out between the families. Sometimes it's not your wedding, it's what your mum or the in-law wants. I hear you sister. But try and stick to your guns, remember it is YOUR DAY.